Focusing on Myself

Stop setting yourself on fire for people who’ll just stay and watch you burn


Photography By: Bradford Anthony Studios


The above statement is something that I’ve struggled with for the longest time, mainly because I’ve always put everything and everyone else before myself. I always did things for other people. I always worked my ass off for other people. I always consistently over thought of what other people would think first and how it would affect them before even considering doing anything myself and how it would affect me. I’ve always been so caught up and worried about what others might think of me and what I do that I would tend to forget about what I thought. So much so that it caused a strain – such a strain that I was buckling under the weight of trying to please everyone else, meanwhile I could barely stand.

Not anymore.


I have spent so much of my life trying so hard to always impress people, to always seek approval and validation from other people and to let my happiness depend on that. I always gave too much to people who didn't give or put the same energy into me. So much so that sometimes I didn't have any energy left for me. So this year, I have decided to stop going above and beyond for people who don’t even care to do the same for me. This year, I have decided to stop giving so much of me and sacrificing so much of my time that I could be using to work on myself and my own growth to people who wouldn’t even blink an eye for me when it came down to it.

So you know what? I am going to be selfish as hell in 2018. I deserve that.

It’s time to focus on myself because at the end of the day, I am my longest commitment, my biggest investment. Love starts from within and so does happiness. So I have decided, that in order to be my happiest this year I will be focusing on myself first and laying the foundation for things to fall into place. And I encourage you to do too. 


Cut out the things and the people in your life that bring you no growth. Stop giving your time to things that don't help improve who you are. 

Focus on YOU. 

This year, I’m putting myself first and loving myself the most. This year, I choose to ONLY be there for people and help people who would do the same for me. This year, I am choosing to only surround myself with people that reflect who I want to be. This year, I am focusing the most on ME.

Top: Forever 21 (out of stock) | Jeans: Nordstrom (similar here) | Purse: Coach (out of stock) | Shoes: Forever 21 (similar here) | Jacket: Forever 21 (similar here) | Necklace: Primark (similar here


Til' Next Time,